Dating! Ugh, the pain of it all. But, in order to mate, we must date.
People attack this task with varied strategies, from both private and public perspectives.
First line of call usually involves trawling the dating scene venues; pubs, nightclubs, parties. Single people who are searching for that “special someone” hunt these fields. If this trail leads nowhere, they seek professional assistance.
Matchmaking is one of the oldest and most natural trades. In rural areas of old, before
cars, planes and trains, their services were invaluable. The village could be small and spread wide with single people never crossing one another’s path. The matchmaker would be called by either the family or the individual seeking a partner. He would discuss what type of person they were looking for in terms of personality, looks, strength, land and dowry.
My great uncle was such a broker. His name was Dan Paddy Andy from Lyrecrompane and the late, great John B. Keane wrote copious accounts of his trade. He is credited with over 400 successful matches.
With technological advancement, dating has become more accessible. Dating agencies, online dating, speed dating and personal ads all widen the opportunity for finding that match.
People are busy in this day and age. Many people working in cities spend three hours travelling back and forth to work. An eight hour work day, three hours travelling, eight hours sleep, an hour to eat and dress for work, that’s twenty hours gone! Leaving four hours a day as the time slot for extra curricular activity; dating.
Many are tired of the pub scene, don’t go to nightclubs and have had their fill of blind dates. Disasters created by well meaning friends. They turn to the professionals, who have huge a database of others searching for that soul mate. At least everyone is on the same page there, they are all saying “here I am, single and searching.” This makes it easier to start some sort of dialogue; knowing they are open and free to date.
I’ve heard of many people that have regularly used these services and have had mixed experiences. Some love it for the sheer variety it offers as they like tasting many samples before making a final choice. Some have met some weirdo’s that have left a bad taste in their mouth and some have met people that have become good friends but not lovers or potential mates.
The advice they’ve given follows.
Do have a few conversations, either online or via telephone and feel them out. Do they sound like someone you’d really want to meet? Do they sound mentally healthy, positive?
Do some searches on the information they’ve provided. See if anything comes up to verify any content in their biography.
Meet in a public place for that face to face encounter. You never really know when there is a stranger involved whether you are being set up for something more sinister than a date. Men, you could be talking to the most gorgeous blonde in the world, everything is going well and she’s invited you to her place for a night-cap. Careful!
She could possibly be working with someone waiting to rob you once you leave that public meeting point. Women, you know yourself, avoid situations where you will be alone and prone to being overpowered and sexually attacked.
These are important things to consider before we run off to meet that Adonis who is also looking for companionship and love. Enjoy the hunt but remember to be cautious.
Theresa Daly
.
People attack this task with varied strategies, from both private and public perspectives.
First line of call usually involves trawling the dating scene venues; pubs, nightclubs, parties. Single people who are searching for that “special someone” hunt these fields. If this trail leads nowhere, they seek professional assistance.
Matchmaking is one of the oldest and most natural trades. In rural areas of old, before
cars, planes and trains, their services were invaluable. The village could be small and spread wide with single people never crossing one another’s path. The matchmaker would be called by either the family or the individual seeking a partner. He would discuss what type of person they were looking for in terms of personality, looks, strength, land and dowry.
My great uncle was such a broker. His name was Dan Paddy Andy from Lyrecrompane and the late, great John B. Keane wrote copious accounts of his trade. He is credited with over 400 successful matches.
With technological advancement, dating has become more accessible. Dating agencies, online dating, speed dating and personal ads all widen the opportunity for finding that match.
People are busy in this day and age. Many people working in cities spend three hours travelling back and forth to work. An eight hour work day, three hours travelling, eight hours sleep, an hour to eat and dress for work, that’s twenty hours gone! Leaving four hours a day as the time slot for extra curricular activity; dating.
Many are tired of the pub scene, don’t go to nightclubs and have had their fill of blind dates. Disasters created by well meaning friends. They turn to the professionals, who have huge a database of others searching for that soul mate. At least everyone is on the same page there, they are all saying “here I am, single and searching.” This makes it easier to start some sort of dialogue; knowing they are open and free to date.
I’ve heard of many people that have regularly used these services and have had mixed experiences. Some love it for the sheer variety it offers as they like tasting many samples before making a final choice. Some have met some weirdo’s that have left a bad taste in their mouth and some have met people that have become good friends but not lovers or potential mates.
The advice they’ve given follows.
Do have a few conversations, either online or via telephone and feel them out. Do they sound like someone you’d really want to meet? Do they sound mentally healthy, positive?
Do some searches on the information they’ve provided. See if anything comes up to verify any content in their biography.
Meet in a public place for that face to face encounter. You never really know when there is a stranger involved whether you are being set up for something more sinister than a date. Men, you could be talking to the most gorgeous blonde in the world, everything is going well and she’s invited you to her place for a night-cap. Careful!
She could possibly be working with someone waiting to rob you once you leave that public meeting point. Women, you know yourself, avoid situations where you will be alone and prone to being overpowered and sexually attacked.
These are important things to consider before we run off to meet that Adonis who is also looking for companionship and love. Enjoy the hunt but remember to be cautious.
Theresa Daly
.
posted by theresa daly at 5:09 PM
0 Comments:
Post a Comment
<< Home